The Happiness Project!

I think we can all agree that 2009 was pretty stinky. In the past few months, I found myself falling into a real rut, sort of walking around with a big black cloud swirling around me, filled with doom and gloom and finding very little joy in life. As I was driving to work today, I was thinking about that, and about advice I have given my kids very often and others as well. Happiness is a choice, a decision we make every day, and being happy takes a real proactive approach. I was telling another person a few days ago that the door to happiness opens out - not an original, but something I read on a day by day calendar thing once and it stuck. So I have decided to embark on a happiness project, a sort of journey to find joy in every day, and I hope you will take the ride with me. I welcome you to read my daily posts and comment on what effort you have made today and what joy you have found in the simplest of things. Maybe by our mutual support we can uplift our mood and make 2010 the year of being happy.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Day Eleven, January 16th, 2010




When I tried to evaluate the joy quotient for today, I found a thread that ran through the whole day, neighbors that have become life long friends. I have lived in my house for almost 32 years, and forged friendships with other young moms, that have lasted to this day. Anna, Peggy, Kathy, Ronnie, Janet, and Sandy moved on, Cathy and Frances passed away much too young, but from the old crew, Joanne F, Bonnie and Pat and I remain. Newer neighbors just as dear are Sharon and her mom, Johanna, Joanne W, Renee, Julie and Julia. Today I rode with Joanne F to the wake for Julia's daughter who died after a courageous battle with cystic fibrosis. Before we left, Sharon and Johanna offered a ride as well. In the parking lot, Joanne and I met up with Pat and her daughter Lisa. I drove Pat to the hospital when she was in labor with Lisa with the emergency brake on all the way, a fact that we love to laugh about to this day. Pat's daughter Lori was on her way down from NY with her new baby, Victoria, and I hoped to stop by to give her a little cuddle. When I got home my husband told me that my daughter had called and was meeting up with her old friends from the neighborhood, Melissa, Jessica and Colleen and before going out for dinner she would stop by. The friends grouped at my house and the little girls now have babies of their own. My grandson didn't want to go out to dinner with the girls and the babies since his bestest friend from when he lived with us in our neighborhood was over to play. So Rebecca and Damien hung out, ate dinner, made cookies and explored my junk room with their hard hats. Rebecca was proud to tell my daughter's friends that Damien was her oldest and best friend, that they had been friends since they were three. Damien corrected her and said, no Rebecca, I think since we were two. Big seven year olds with a lifetime friendship. Just like me and my good neighbors, just like my daughter and her neighborhood pals. Someone once wrote that you can't go home again, in our neighborhood, that just isn't so, it will always be home and always be the place where lifelong friendships are formed and last. And that thought is what brought me joy today.

1 comments:

The Tote Trove said...

You're so lucky to have so many great friends and neighbors after so many years!

My moments of joy today were much more mundane. I had off from work, so I was able to paint, watch TV, and see my boyfriend at lunch. It's the little things :)